Let’s talk about something that sounds basic but is seriously powerful: breathing. Not just any breathing. We’re talking intentional breathing that can help calm your nervous system when divorce stress hits hard (hello 3 AM anxiety!)
Here’s the coolest part
Certain ways of breathing actually tell your body “hey, we’re safe” and kick in your natural relaxation response. Your heart rate slows, your blood pressure drops, and you start feeling more like yourself again. Think of it as hitting your body’s reset button and turning your stress switch from “high alert” to “all clear.” Who doesn’t need some science-backed calm in their life? We’ll show you how to get started with an easy, do-anywhere exercise.
Get your “5 minute calm”
First thing’s first, get comfy. You don’t need a meditation cushion or anything else. Just sit down and settle in wherever you feel most at ease, even if it’s wrapped in your favorite blanket.
Place one hand on your chest and the other on your belly. Think of your hands as gentle sensors, just resting there to help you tune into your body’s natural state.
Notice your breath. (Don’t judge your breath!) Your breath might be shallow, fast, or uneven right now, and that’s completely okay. Tell yourself whatever it is, it’s ok. You’re here to observe, like watching waves on a beach.
Try breathing into your chest hand. Feel your chest rise under your hand like a gentle balloon filling with air. Take your time with each breath and try not to rush it.
Now try breathing into your belly hand. Let your belly expand and fill up softly under your palm, as if you’re making space for calm to flow in.
Combine your breaths. On the inhale move through your chest, then belly. On the exhale, move through your belly then chest. Imagine a wave flowing through your body up and down, creating a soothing rhythm.
Can’t miss pro tips
💡 Remind yourself that there isn’t a right or wrong way to do this – it’s about what feels good and calming to YOU.
💡 Start small, with 5-10 breaths. You can work your way up to longer breath sessions.
💡 Try it when you’re calm first, so it’s easier to use when stress hits. Some women love starting or ending their day with this practice because it’s grounding and connects you to who you are in your core.
Ask yourself the magic question
How do you feel afterward?
Notice what you feel in your body and your mind. Are you more centered? Still stressed? Are your thoughts racing or is your mind quiet? Whatever the answer is – it’s fine! You’re learning what works for your body and every experience will be different.
✨ Remember: You’ve got this. Sometimes the simplest tools are the most powerful. ✨
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