We see you divorce warrior and you’re not alone! Real talk – Managing a divorce is like juggling five balls while someone keeps tossing more your way. Between legal paperwork, emotional waves, and life’s regular demands, it’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed. You need some divorce care! π€« So we’re going to share a secret π You don’t have to figure this out alone. We break it down into manageable pieces.
Review your basic needs checklist
Bring π it π back π to π basics. When did you last eat a real meal? (No, wine and crackers don’t count!) Are you drinking enough water? How’s your sleep? Have you moved your body today? When’s the last time you’ve done something joyful or talked to a friend?
It may sound too simple, but trust us, these are the essential building blocks for thriving. Check out our can’t-miss-piece that explains it allπ‘π Tips for Dealing With Stress and Anxiety in Divorce π‘
Make your space your sanctuary
Do you know that your physical surroundings plays a key role in shaping your mood and overall well-being?! And do you know Harvard University research show that spending time in green spaces outdoors is associated with many physical and mental health benefits, including lower stress and mortality?!
We know everything is harder when our mind feels chaotic. Turns out the same is true for our physical spaces. A cluttered or chaotic environment can lead to stress and anxiety, while a clean, organized space promotes calmness and clarity.
Here’s what to do about it π We call it “Divorce Care.” Create a cozy corner for yourself somewhere in your home. Make your bedroom as peaceful as you can and create a bedtime ritual (even if its 60 seconds) we promise it will help. And amp up the cozy! Think soft blankets, plush pillows, and comfy rugs.
Want more tips to bring calm back into your life? π π π 5 Essential Self-Care Tips π‘
Gather your support squad
Surround yourself with friends and family who uplift you during this challenging time. Sharing your feelings can lighten the emotional load and remind you that you’re not alone. Sometimes divorce care looks like finding your people.
Get yourself a therapist or divorce coach stat. They offer support, give you space to vent and process, and help you ride all of the emotions of divorce. πPro-Tip – Head to our Find a Pro page and immediately connect to incredible and trustworthy professionals! π
Organize your finances
Yes, taking care of your financial health is 100% self care. In fact, it might be the piece that makes you feel the most powerful.
Start by taking control of your financial situation π (1) create a budget, (2) review your assets and debts, (3) create your list of money values and goals, and (4) update your accounts (ie. closing joint accounts, opening new individual accounts, and updating beneficiaries on insurance policies and retirement accounts.)
πPro-Tip – Learn everything you need here π Roadmap to Your Divorce Money Journey π
Create new routines and hobbies
Create structure in your new life – we promise life will feel calmer! Ease into this by creating (or returning to) daily routines and exploring new interests. Maybe now is the time to try that new restaurant or join your neighborhood running club. These activities can help you build a sense of purpose and identity outside of your previous relationship.
Say yes to JOY!
A 2023 research initiative called The Big Joy Project finds that people who commit daily “micro-acts” of joy experience about a 25% increase in emotional well-being over the course of a week. And we are all in on improved emotional well-beingπ π
Plan for your (incredible) future
Divorce is a lot of things. One of the biggies π it’s a transformative experience. It offers you the chance to redefine your life, chart a new course, or pursue new dreams. Make time to reflect on what you want your future to look like. Having a clear vision for your future is powerful and empowering. And it might just help guide you through this transition π«
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