Ending a marriage is emotionally, psychologically, and logistically difficult.
Don’t make it any harder by committing these 3 mistakes.
Mistake: Being less than 100% honest with your lawyer.
Your lawyer is your greatest ally, but only if you’re upfront about your life, finances, children, and divorce.
It’s tough and uncomfortable, but honesty gives your lawyer the full picture they need to support you effectively.
*Pro-Tip: Your lawyer has heard EVERYTHING. Whatever you’re dwelling on, they’ve heard it before. So come clean, fast.
Mistake: Arriving unprepared for the meeting.
During your legal consultation, you and your lawyer will exchange crucial information.
They’ll outline their process, strategy, philosophy, communication style, and pricing. You’ll be able to explain your situation and YOU.
Know your financial details, assets, debts, incomes, and children, and be ready to discuss them thoroughly. Being prepared means understanding what’s at stake—your finances, home, children—and discussing them clearly and confidently.
Mistake: Being unclear on your goals and values.
Before your legal consultation, clarify your divorce goals: What do you want now and in the future?
Stay focused to avoid losing sight of your objectives during the process.
Write them down, discuss with a trusted friend, and practice communicating them clearly with your lawyer.
TLDR:
- Be 100% honest with your lawyer
- Arrive prepared
- Know your goals + stay focused
Check out our video resources that walk you through a mock divorce consult, read articles to boost your knowledge, and remember that you can do this. We are with you every step of the way.

So glad you’re doing this work!